The importance of honouring a loved ones funeral wishes

Dealing with a loss is hard but for many a funeral can offer comfort as it is be seen as giving us the opportunity to say our final goodbyes and celebrate a loved one’s life.

In many cases, the deceased would have provided a will or instructions on what they would like for their funeral. It’s important for you to remember that this is their way of controlling the situation and helping family members plan the memorial or funeral service.

Your loved one may want to personalise their service based upon specific memories they want people to share together. This can include certain music, photos or personal items to be displayed.

While black remains the colour of choice at a traditional funeral, some wish to change this as they want to celebrate, rather than mourn their departure. It’s always best to make the funeral as personal as possible.

Common last requests

Here we have listed a few common last requests that families often have difficulty coming to terms with:

No funeral

This is one of the most important and difficult requests for many families to understand. The majority of people will not want to put the financial burden of their funeral onto their family members, and would prefer to have a memorial or small gathering of friends and family.

Instead of planning a funeral, you can organise a dinner, a party or a graveside memorial for them. Others have chosen to honour loved ones by planting trees or dedicating a bench at their favourite park. There are so many different ways you can celebrate a life without a funeral.

Cremation or Burial

There is often a debate between families when it comes to burial options.

If the deceased has asked to be cremated yet it goes against your personal beliefs, we suggest you still respect the deceased and their choice. If they mention to you that cremation is important to them, then make sure you do as they wish. It may be a decision you later regret.

In the end, keep in mind that your loved one made a point of detailing their specific wishes and it’s wise to honour them, just as you’d want to be honoured in the future. If you’re in control, take your responsibility seriously, even if you don’t agree with their decisions.